I'm officially declaring myself as pure bottom. I tried being top for several times but the moment I put on the condom, it starting to go from rock hard to semi-hard. It was very frustrating that it embarrassed me when I tried to please a bottom, especially the bottom was expecting me to give a good ramp to his ass. And when I did enter fully with my full hardon, I came sooner than I expected. And it was very embarrassing. I made an lame excuse saying I was tired from workout. It stresses me out because I thought I could be versatile. I wanted to dominate in being a top but this thing is stressing me out, especially during sex when I tried to enter into the bottom. To all the tops out there, is there any way to remain rock-hard and long-lasting throughout the fornication? I'm really a bad top here.
I think being a good top can mean several different things so what I'm wondering is what feels "right" to you? I remember when I first came out that bottoming didn't just merely felt good, it felt right. Nowadays, on the rare occasions I bottom, it feels a little awkward but fun. But to answer your question, I've been known to take a quarter of a blue pill on occasion when I'm not quite sure if I'll need it. Sometimes I do, sometimes I don't. I generally take a small dose midway through a business trip because I know I tend to go a little crazy and hook up with a guy or two a night and the little guy might have trouble keeping up, especially if the guy asks to go wrapped.
ReplyDeleteI've always fantasied myself as a dominant top. In fact, when I was being a top, I tend to bring out the dominant side of me, especially during foreplay. But when comes to the very moment, I go semi-hard with condom on. I could see the killjoy expression on their face even though they said it was fine. It was such a humiliation and frustration to me. They actually did expect the best side of my wild side of me when comes to being a top.
DeleteI feel you, the same thing happened to me as well. Hence, from vers top I turned into pure bottom nowadays. Nonetheless, I am still pretty dominant when it comes to foreplay lol The only time I can get and remain hard was when I did it bare which is not a good idea, I know
ReplyDeleteoh my. We are on the same page. I did one time bare i was rock-hard for the whole session.
DeletePhysiologically, i think your cockhead is a bit too sensitive, if you're the type to cum too soon especially when pressure is applied on the cockhead.
ReplyDeletePsychologically, I think you're putting much pressure on yourself to becoming "THE Top". Anxiety affects erection. You need t find a bed partner whom you can be totally comfortable with, either as a top or as a bottom. Sex supposed to be fun, make it so by not pressuring yourself much on bed roles.
oh yes! pretty much what you said was true. I have sensitive head and whenever i give head, especially those guys who suck me good, I came pretty fast than i expect.
Deletesome guys who cum too soon, compensate by going for multiple rounds. others, take control of the room, and are better off as the givers/pleasers.
Deletehow about you? How do you compensate?
well. i usually do foreplay a lot to compensate. but the ultimate pleasure is the intercourse. of course .. i expect myself to do better in intercourse rather than foreplay. lol
DeletePossibly the psychological impact that debilitates your carnal pleasures. Perhaps try to put on a cock ring?
ReplyDeleteI did a few times when the bottom put the condom-ring from unused condoms on me.. i lasted quite a while. but the pleasures of entering an asshole is too much for me to handle.
DeleteIndeed the extra blood flow into your penis increase hardness and sensitivity... anyway practice makes perfect :)
DeleteI wank to de-sensitise the head. I used to cum pretty quick but now.... It took too long to cum. Not sure if i wank too much. On side note, do bottom feel pain during penatration after cumming? My bf usually want me to stop once he cummed. If i continue, he told me it is painful.
ReplyDeleteIt's very subjective to each individual when comes to sensitivity. I heard stories about some guys' asshole would become very sensitive after they cummed. As for me, I could go for more after cumming. Opps!
DeleteTried half a blue pill coupled with condom with anesthetics?
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