This year I will practice the art of slowing down. Eat slowly. Drink slowly. Read slowly. Think slowly. Speak slowly. Drive slowly. Lift weight slowly. Breathe slowly. Suck cock slowly. As much as I intend to keep up with the pace of life these days, I realize I have never enjoyed the joy of being present. I think about tomorrow, the day after, and the future. Thinking about all the what-ifs, trying to make things right even it hasn't happened yet.
Rather than stressing myself about tomorrow, how about staying put at the moment and take in what I can? I can prepare. I can plan. Worrying? Worrying steals your peace.
My fitness goal is always a part of my new year resolution. Rather than going through a rapid fat loss to prove myself I could do it within certain amount of time frame, I will take my time and assess my progress and tweak a few changes to cater my goal. After all, I have no one else to prove except myself.
I will go slow in my sex life. I will try and have sex with men who are genuinely into more than just sex, from being platonic to being a good friend. But I am not sure how I gonna do that since I have deleted Grindr. Maybe I can try finding in my gym - I doubt it would happen.
Don't you ever feel like the time has sped up so fast as we grow older? Especially after Covid?
Maybe another way of saying "slow down" is to be more "present." Focus on the now, and don't worry about the future or ruminate about the past. It sounds like you are looking for a "connection" with the guys you meet. Not just sex and maybe you never see them again. I think this is a good direction. I also think having true connections will make you feel better, maybe warmer, about the ex and the guy.
ReplyDeleteBest wishes for 2026!