Video recording is the new foreplay practice

Dear Zach,

Living in 2026 now, video recording of everything has become a norm. Not to mention video recording your intimate bed time session is now becoming a new foreplay material in your phone gallery.

Ten years ago, I did my first sex video clip and it was thrilling and I was afraid at the same time, thinking what if the video leaked and it would be all over the internet. Suffice to say that with the screening of my ass getting pound by a big dick, it could have been anyone.

Fast forward today, every gay guy must have been holding a share of their own sex videos in their phone. It is a trend heavily influenced by X - since most guys turning to X for fast track gay porn clips. Then, people start to share their own clips, getting a good traction and followers by massive amount of retweets, it has become an addiction of making more own sex tape and upload it for the chase of short term fame and validation. That was me back in the days I was doing OF. Everyday I woke up, seeing my followers increased by another one thousand because of my sex videos, the feeling was euphoric. I craved for more attention, more likes, more validation, thinking my ass was making me gay-porn-famous in the local scene.

Now, The Blowers website is a solid proof that making own sex video is no longer a taboo thing to do. X is the gay favorite platform to share. People are no longer afraid of the consequences. Courtesy to the influence of Western practice, sex video recording has become a part of the foreplay now.

I rarely do video while having sex now. Even if i do, it is just only a few seconds of the best angle for the me to keep.

Even after leaving the OF scene for many years, I am still recognized by a few gay guys in the Blowers. I did not know I still hold a lasting impact in their mind. Not sure if I should be happy or sad. There is a saying "Whatever you post in the internet, it will remain forever." 

     

Is wearing a condom becoming obsolete?

Dear Zach,

My question abovementioned comes from after 3 days of being on The Blowers and observing those profiles with their dick and mortar as main profile picture, followed by a carousel of their own prize-winning bareback sex videos, and reading the overly-praised testimonials about how this top giving them the best fuck of their life or how this bottom giving the best sloppy bj and cumming for the 3rd time in one session. Too fake to be true because I have come across with this buffy guy amongst the profile and realized I have hooked up with for a few times before, and his dick is below average, the sex was subpar at least. Somehow, the guys in this website boosted him like he is an alpha top.

For real, the amount of the amateur sex videos I have watched from this website is more than enough than signing up for X account. In fact, almost most of the users linked their X account on their profile, needless to say, it must be their alter ego.

What truly concern is that bareback sex has become a norm now. It is not something to be aware of the risk. With the existence of PreP and deoxy pep, guys are becoming more proactive in taking it just to ditch the usage of condom. The question: How many of them are truly taking it or how many of them are lying about taking it? Do they simply trust a stranger claiming they take precaution just to have the moment of pleasure? I still have yet found any video showing the most backdated safe sex practice - sex with condom.

I stated in my own profile that I do not do raw sex. This is why after 3 days being there, I have yet managed to hook up with anyone. There are a few prospects. But the conversations go cold afterwards. 

The Blowers

Dear Zach,

I have been having hard time finding new tops since grindr was banned, and trying my best to find time to go to Chakran. But my working hours sometime exceeded and, by the time, I was done delivering parcels, I was dead tired. I did have sex last week with Karim (regular Pakistanis top) after a month of not meeting up. We've had great session as usual. But, for me, having sex once a month is little bit too less.

Today I happened to stumble upon this website posted by one user in the local gay forum, called The Blowers. It is a grindr version website, where your nude and sex videos are allowed to be uploaded in your profile for public viewing and enticing. Pretty simply layout and interface. Surprisingly, there are plenty of local guys there! I signed up immediately and browsed through the profiles showing on my radar.

Most profiles are filled with their own big dick picture for tops while the bottoms' profile are ego-boosted with their own cock-sucking videos and pictures of pride-earned big dick in their mouth. It is like X combined with Grindr to produce this website. What couldn't be more worst is that your profile are allowed to leave testimonials by those encounters you've had with other members. I am unsure if this is a good move for people to leave comments about your bed skills just to get validated. I feel anxious reading all these good testimonials about those bottoms who give great bj to those big-dicked tops. It is as if they are too good to be true. The more profiles I come across with, the more anxious I feel about myself. What if I wasn't really that good in sucking as claimed by most of the guys I've had encountered with from the past? What if I wasn't really that good in taking big dick and got left bad testimonials in my profile? What if I needed to upload my own sex videos just to prove myself? It is not like I haven't done it in the past. 

This testimonial part is certainly an ego-booster for the user himself, but it also place an imminent stress hovering you. Imagine someone breed you and left a google review about your hole. 

Ultraprocessed Time

Dear Zach,

"Ultraprocessed Time"

Apparently, it is a relatively new noun released by Cambridge, defining that one is spending time aimlessly watching online content that is designed to keep people watching it, rather than to be useful and educational.

I did my utmost best to remove all kind of social media apps. I refuse to jump on the bandwagon knowing the latest viral video on tiktok or IG. I avoid X at all cost because those amateur gay porn clips are too resisting to avoid. There is this local gay forum that is too toxic to share your thought without being bombarded for getting called racist or dumb. The only good thing about the forum is knowing about the cruising places and saunas in town. There is no chance of getting hooked up from there.  

I recently find myself google searching their nude or sex tape of these fitness influencers/OF creator from my FB reel feeds, it loads all kind of their leaked nudes and sex images in my google image search and I couldn't be more satisfied knowing that their naked torso and precious genital, which requires USD20 to unlock for viewing, are leaked in the public domain for free viewing now. Before I knew it, I find myself searching more and more of their sex video for free and manage to watch a few full sex videos of this Latino guy. After watching, I quickly withdraw myself before I dive too deep into this sort of action. Thankfully enough to my local internet server provider (ISP), most of the adult websites are restricted in access. Therefore, watching gay porn online is never gonna be my after-work reliever.

It is so hard being normal. If having myself addicted to socmed spending hours doom scrolling is the new normal, I would rather be the abnormal one. 

 

Starting A New Slate

Dear Zach,

I recently bought a brand new samsung phone at the most bargain price from Shopee which costs less than RM1K. My old phone, which was bought in 2022, has finally ran its course and stopped having major security updates and patches since last year. The shelf life of every phone these days lasts at most 5 years. Therefore, I told myself my next phone purchase must be less than RM1K, having basic functions without all kinds of fancy functions I would never gonna use. I asked Gemini about recommendation and it pointed me to having A07 5G, with the price of RM800 with 3 months 0% installment option using SPAYLater.

The existence of AI is truly a blessing in disguise. It assisted me in rerouting the phone by toggle off and on a few settings to make the phone run extra smoother than the first day I started using during my shift of delivery under the hot sun, constant lagging and burning hot device under my palm. I was so regret about the purchase, but thankfully, AI assisted me in this matter.

I also removed quite a number of pictures and files from my new phone as all the data was transferred from my old phone easily. Almost 1000 pictures were removed - my cringeworthy selfie, my nudes, some other unworthy remembering, some miscellaneous, and past. Quite surprising seeing so much of pictures removed as I am not a fan of taking picture. Also, quite surprising to find out I have a few videos recording myself sucking dick I can't remember of. Mannn, I was hungry for the thick indian dick and full of hair at that time. It dated back on 2023. I moved these gems to my private folder. I just love videos of me sucking dick. I can hardly recognize myself when I was watching them. Yes I still have plenty of my sex videos from the past in files, waiting to be leaked "accidentally" so that I can kickstart my OF journey again. 

 

Fem Top ; Masc Bottom

Dear Zach,

It is funny how the table has turned where the bottoms are increasingly becoming muscular or masculine in contrast to the tops these days. Yes, I am one of the masculine bottoms subset and so proud of my identity and look. Most of the tops I met love me as a tall sized masculine bottom. And some skinny tops have the biggest dick ever. 

This scenario happens simply because of the steep competition between vast numbers of bottoms over the lacking number of tops. Imagine the top has to choose between a skinny and muscular bottom, the choice is pretty obvious for most.

My motive of working out hard in the gym is to get tops' attention. This is and has always been that way. So far, I have no issue getting masculine tops / straight looking tops to bed me either. My regular pakistanis tops are slightly taller than me and they love the muscular side of me. 

Cost Me A Week Load of Grocery

Dear Zach,

Reading is and has always been the best way for me to improve my language. I still remember when I was in college I used to read at least 4 or 5 books a month, and writing on this blog, and all together it tremendously brought my English to the next level. Books were used to be affordable. With all the inflation and shits, the cost of one book is literally a week of my grocery. Could you imagine how much RM70 worth of grocery is?

Despite that, I still bought a book of my favorite author. I tried to read it before sleep, somehow I am not able to finish it. I bought it 2 months ago, I am still half way through the plot. I am constantly distracted and couldn't concentrate in reading more than 10 minutes. Instead, I read one chapter per night. But when I've had a long tiring day after delivery work, my mind just couldn't read between the lines anymore.

To say that I am not interested in reading anymore, that is a stretch; I still do. But with the expensive price tag, I just can't afford buying books anymore. Besides, each title and content of the books are too similar but with different authors - especially at the self-enrichment section. I wonder if they just hire somebody to write for them and release it as it is. A good reason to dissuade me from buying them.

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